Introduction and Gratitude
[0:01] Hello, everyone, and welcome back, and a huge thank you for tuning in. So if you have been listening to the episodes of late, we've been really delving into some life energy. We've been looking at the cycles of life and helping out, and I just want to say a huge thank you to everyone with the feedback from the previous episode about the three life cycles and the three energies of life. It proved to be probably my most popular episode. So thank you to everyone that did send that through. Greatly appreciated. And I love hearing that it has helped you in some shape or form. So we've done the live stuff. And today, we're going right back into my wheelhouse of beautiful spiritual energy. And because of with all the beautiful tours and events that I've been doing, this has just kind of popped up. And it's been wonderful. Had a lot of questions around this with people online.
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Understanding the Energy
[0:59] And I thought, beautiful, we have to do a podcast about this. And the podcast is about the common complaint, and it's about helping everyone understand the energy and when we are kind of handling, how we're connecting and how we're helping you. So in this episode, you will find there's going to be two sizes. I'm going to try and help you as the listener and also as a participant and as a recipient as well of receiving the energy to help you understand that. But what I'm also going to do is I'm going to try and enlighten you and share my side and also the channeling side of this. So to help you understand it, because I'm just going to say it bluntly, there is so much more going on than just connecting to your energy and, you know, talking and saying stuff. There is actually a lot going on. there's a lot of mechanics, there's quite a few moving parts. And I just tend to find that a lot of people, of course, aren't aware of that. And that's where I love to try and educate. When I was talking about this recently on my socials.
[2:09] A few people were lovely enough to share it. And if you're listening to this, again, thank you for the share. I appreciate it. If you did, like they were saying, love this. I love how this was explained. This is just not talked about enough. So, okay, here we are. So, this is the common complaint. So, what happens? So, you might have attended an event of mine already. If not, you might be. You might even be finding this podcast and this episode after attending events. So, it might help you, give you a little bit more understanding as well. So, but it doesn't matter where you're on the journey. I'm hoping this will help you to understand it from both sides.
[2:43] So, walking you way through the process. So, this is about connecting people with their loved ones. I have been doing this for a long time. I've been fortunate enough to be, you know, connecting since I was a teenager, just went looking for it. Ha, guess what? Found it, been doing it ever since. And I've obviously been doing it professionally now for well over 10 years. So, out of a lot of experience, obviously working one-to-one with people, but also working with large audiences of 100, 200, 300 people. And of course, when you're in this kind of energy, it doesn't matter how it happens because most people come in wanting to hear from one or two particular people. board. Now, that's completely understandable. That's natural because that's what's kind of leading you to seek out a session or to seek out a reader or a psychic or a medium like myself. So, that's the main thing. But what the common complaint is, is people will often.
[3:47] Sit through an event or may even come to a session and all of a sudden we're here and we might be connecting with example like your granddad, then it might be your auntie, and then it might be your uncle and whoever else. And sometimes you might even have your fur babies come through. Yes, they do people, they do come through. Not my favorite. I have enough trouble with the two-legged people, the four-legged fur babies sometimes. But regardless, what happens is that even though these beautiful relatives have come through, they've taken the time, time, effort, and energy to connect with you and pass on messages, a lot of people will go, but you know what? I was just really wanting to talk to my mom. Or I was really just hoping to connect with my dad because, you know, he passed away, you know, three months ago and he was my best mate and I just really want to, you know, hear from him. Now, I completely empathize with you because obviously when we lose someone, there's a big hole in our hearts and that's just the love because that's the loss. The tricky part is that when it comes to connecting, it doesn't always work like that.
[4:59] Here's the thing. So, even though that's what I was like, why, if you can connect. So, the common complaint, let me backtrack, the common complaint will always be, you can talk to all these other relatives, but the person that I really want to talk to the most is not coming through. I find that really odd. I find that weird because they loved me so much. Our relationship was so special, they would be here. I have never forgotten an example or an actual situation that did happen to me. And this is relatively early on in the piece where I was doing stage events, and I had an audience of 200. Now, lovely event, beautiful connections, felt like most people had a good night. I had quite a few people line up afterwards, just wanting to have a quick chat with me, ask a question, and the usual. So, as I was staying behind and working my way through the line of people, there was this older lady, and she was an elderly lady. She must have been 75 plus.
[6:09] And as she was walking past, and I think she was there, obviously being helped by another family member, a younger one. But I will never forget it because as it was happening, within earshot, she wasn't in line, she wasn't close to me, but she was just enough to make eye contact with me. And I'm talking, she locked eyes, boom. Boom. And we definitely locked eyes. And in that moment, as a off-the-cuff passing comment, it was a simple case of, well, if you were the real deal, my husband would have come through because he loved me so much and we were together for years. So, and he didn't come through. So, that lets me know you're not the real thing.
[6:54] And it was something like that. It was a fair while ago. But all I remember was that she talked about how her husband should have come through because that's how strong their relationship was. And I was like, wow. And in that moment, and I was really shocked. I was genuinely shocked because this lovely older lady and this level of disdain coming across to me for doing what I was doing. And I know from her that's just her loss and that's her grief coming out and I feel for her then but for me taking in the whole audience I'm like wow that's I get the pain and I understand the anger and the frustration however there's like another 200 people in that room also wanting the same thing and And when you're saying something like that, to me, that's to me is almost like, wow, you're almost being a little bit disrespectful and ungrateful for the connections that did happen to the people in the room. And there's always a lot of people that will kind of miss out, which is always hard, but it's a big thing. But it was a situation I've never forgotten.
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The Common Complaint
[8:15] And it's a situation I see with a lot of people come through.
[8:19] So, here's where it kind of comes in. So, that's the common complaint and I'm just going to walk you through how it works.
[8:26] The biggest issue here is expectation.
[8:31] If you ever walk away from something like that and you are feeling disappointed, that is because your expectation was not met. All I can do is if you're listening to this and encouraging, whether you're coming to to an event of mine, working with me one-on-one in some shape or form, or anybody else in this forum and in this beautiful, energetic world, please be mindful of your expectations. Your expectations will be the absolute killer of what you are going to receive and what you're going to take away from these opportunities and these connections. And if you don't, Be mindful of them.
[9:17] You're just setting yourself up for that disappointment and for that fail. And that's making it awfully hard on the channel. And it's also making it very hard on your loved ones. And the other thing too is you have a whole bunch of other loved ones and a whole bunch of other team members, energetic team members, spirit guides, but also wanting to come through and help you. So, there's a whole bunch there. So, the way this works, and this is where this little bit of education comes in, just trying to help you out with the energetic side. So you've always got to remember when you are coming to do this be mindful you are always going to receive what you need not what you want i'm going to repeat that okay but you're always going to receive what you need not what you want that's so so important so next time or whenever you're seeking anything out, always be open and be mindful that, yes, say that I'd like to connect with my, or I'd like to connect with my sister, but then let go.
[10:24] And what I mean by let go is, it's kind of like sending a letter. Like you write down, dear mum, dear sis, then you fold that letter into an envelope. You put the stamp on it and you put it in the postbox. Once it's in in the postbox, you've got no control whatsoever what happens to that letter. It may get lost. It may be received. It might get there early. It might be delayed. The whole thing is, is that every time you are sending a letter like that, you are letting go of it. You are releasing it and allowing the natural progress of that.
[10:59] To happen. And this is also what happens energetically. So, even before you go to an event, you go to a session, whatever it may be, you kind of write the letter. You put in an envelope and then you post it and you go, cool, and we'll see what happens. Because let's face it, when you send a letter, even though you might write a whole bunch of stuff and you might have a whole bunch of questions that you want answers to, that doesn't mean once that person receives a letter, they're going to write back and answer everything how you want it. So, this is no different when we're dealing with energetics. So, and you know, you have no control over when they're going to reply. So, this is a really, really big thing. So, once you start to understand and also respect.
[11:47] The fact that you're going to get what you need, you will have a totally different mindset, you're going to have a totally different perspective, and you're also going to receive it in a very different way. And that's the way I encourage every single one of you listening to this to take that. All right. So, that's the first part. Now, the other part around this is you've got to be mindful is that there's
[12:12]
Grief and Connection
[12:11] always a transition phase. There's other things at play. And one of the big things at play here with connecting with energy is grief. I hate to say but it's a natural part of the process and we all must experience grief in our lifetime. It is a given. As they say, the two things guaranteed in life, death and taxes, and while death, they are guaranteed, but the other guarantee that comes with death is the grief. We all must experience grief in some shape or form and this is a part of it. The trouble is grief is a negative emotion. It is a lower vibrational energy. Naturally, it's not a bad emotion. It's just a lower vibrating emotion. Because of that, it lowers your frequency and it lowers your receptivity.
[13:04] Now, to think of it like if you think of everyone as a radio or an antenna scanning for a radio station, people who are more upbeat are going to be able to find the channels a lot quicker than people who are of a lower vibration. And people in grief, it can make it that little bit harder again. Now, I'm not saying it's not going to happen. I'm just saying we have to be aware and we have to give ourselves and yourselves and your loved ones the best chance possible. And the more we understand this, I always feel the better off we are going to be. So we have to be mindful of your grief. We have to be mindful of your grief state.
[13:46] And the other thing too, is you may not be 100% ready as much as you may want it. But again, remember, it's not about what you need, not what you want. And so we must go through that process. And once our loved ones are on the other side, they are definitely going to respect that. And they're going to respect the journey that you are on as well. The beautiful thing is more often than not, they will usually turn up and give you a sign or a message, some shape or form, and you just have to be able to receive that. And it doesn't always have to come in the form directly through someone. You just got to be open to the signs around you. Some people, it's the feathers. Some people, it's coins, rainbows, whatever it may be, you just got to be open to it. And that's me. That's the best way they wish to communicate with you. So, that's a big thing there.
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Explaining Energy Mechanics
[14:34] Now, the other thing too is, this is a part that a lot of people won't understand because most people are, you know, not aware of how the energy works, but I like to explain this because it just gives you an insight of what's going on. The other reason why I'm going to explain this next part around energy is obviously, one, to help you, but two, is I also want to protect you. I don't want you to kind of get confused, and I don't want this kind of false hope.
[15:12] For a lack of a better term. Now, what I mean by this is you've got to be very, very careful.
[15:19] Now, when we work with energy, so I'm going to try and really break this down for the newbies, you might have lost someone recently, or you might be seeking, but I'm just trying to explain this in a way that you will be able to see it and possibly even feel where the changes are. So to explain this there's two main types of energy or channeling energy that we will work with when working with a client and with spirit they are the psychic and then you've got the medium or mediumship side of things now when i'm connecting and this is personally for me how i connect when i'm working in the mediumship side of things and that's what i do mainly in my events and my stage work, is I will be focusing on your loved one. I'll be really honing in and channeling their energy. I'll be working with, that's why I like to see them first. I like to give you a physical description first.
[16:21] Then we start to go into details around their personality, around their health, around their passing. so that all this information is more around them. It's about the person who has passed. It's about the person in spirit. It's about their energy, and I'm channeling that. When I am channeling that energy, I know for a fact that I am in the mediumship realm.
[16:50] Connection. I'm connecting with them and I love being able to bring through their personality. I love being able to share that with them. It's like getting to know someone quite intimately and I do relate it a little bit to like speed dating sometimes because sometimes there's more than one spirit and I have to connect with multiple people in a hurry. But it's a beautiful thing being able to connect with them and to really kind of get to know them. And for me in that space, and I do love the fact And I pride myself on the fact that I like to try and bring your loved one back to life just for a few minutes.
[17:26] When people say to me, oh my goodness, you're speaking like them, your mannerisms are like them, your body language, the way you walk was like them, that's me connecting them, that's them blending with me and bringing that beautiful life force energy through. That to me is mediumship. That is a beautiful, beautiful thing. and I love working with them that way. Now, what happens from time to time is that you might be sitting in front of someone, it might be there, but be mindful because your memories and your connections to your loved one and how you remember them are also stored within your own energetic field. So, what I mean by the energetic field, for those who do know or don't know, but it's the aura field. I said the auric, okay, the auric field there, but it's the energetic field. Now, anything, a lot of the stuff that happens in our life gets stored into that area.
[18:27] Now, if someone's channeling and working on a psychic energy, and if you're watching this, you know, YouTube, you'll see I'm pointing here like at the camera and it's around the edges of of my face, it's around the edges of my shoulder. And what happens is we're actually channeling and picking up on your energy. Now, when this happens, this is when sometimes I have found, you know, you might find other readers, other mediums, whatever else, they start to ask the questions. I don't like these questions personally, because this means there's not doubt, And where's this energy coming from? It's coming from you. And so, for example, your grief is totally 100% you. It is totally in your energy. And that's very, very easy for a channeler or a reader to pick up on. Very, very easy. It's like, oh, wow, I can sense that you've lost someone.
[19:31] But at the same time, like, personally, I look at that going, we've all lost someone. So, I don't even like to start there. That's why I separate myself from, you know, the person in front of me. I work with the spiritual energy. But what happens is we sense, people will sense that and they'll go, oh, hang on, you've lost someone. I feel like you've lost, you know, a female figure. And I feel like, oh, this might be a mother or I might be an auntie or, and all of a sudden, it's taking a little bit of time to get in to the energy and work with this energy. And you'll be finding that you have to do a lot more validating of the questions that are coming towards you. When this is occurring, this is a psychic link and they might be picking up on your personal memories and information that you have stored about your loved one in your field. Now, technically, this is also okay and we're picking up on that. Now, it's a tool. So, don't get me wrong. This is not, I'm not saying this is necessarily bad, but what I'm just saying is that you might find a difference in the quality of connection that you might be receiving. And you might find, you know, you might have had a connection like this going, oh, wow, like they kind of got started. They were picking up on my loved one, but then it really didn't go anywhere. wear.
[20:53] And if it feels like that, it's because it was connection happening through the psychic link.
[21:01] Now, again, I'm going through the education process here and this could be overwhelming or like bamboozling for some of you. And if that is, I do apologize, but I'm hoping for some of you, this might just help make more sense. Because if you're having these experiences, you're not sure it's happening for a reason. And it's always important for me to do it because this is the mechanics. So the thing is, the psychic energy and the mediumship energy, they're actually interlinked. And I love this because, sorry, my mentor...
[21:31] That taught me way back in the day was also explaining that if you imagine those big, beautiful mansions where you walk in the big double doors and you walk in and it's that foyer is so big that they have a staircase, but there's a staircase on either side of the room, but that staircase arches up and meets in the middle.
[21:57] That's the best way it was described to me. So it doesn't matter which side of the staircase you walk up, eventually the energy will meet and all the connection will be the same. So what I'm talking about here is the way I do it is I walk up one staircase connecting with your spiritual energy and then connect with them going up. And then I might start jumping into other energy that might be psychic. Some people will choose the other staircase connecting with your energy, that psychic energy, that will eventually lead them to connect or connect with a loved one. The only downside is that sometimes by doing it that way, by going the psychic route, is you might find it not as detailed. It may not be as strong because it's a different way of accessing the energy. And I just wanted to share that with you. There are mechanics. It can still work. Sometimes it's the only way to work because of the energy that we have to work with. Like I said, it's a tool and we use that. But hopefully now, you'll start to understand that when you're seeking it out or when you're having a session or when it's being spoken about, for me personally, there should be that deeper connection, and there should be the connection to the person in spirit.
[23:15] That's what I love. That's how I work. The other way can work. I have worked that way from time to time. But like I said, it's different. But just be mindful because I don't want you to be put out. The other reason too is because.
[23:30] When we work or if people are working psychically, they may pick up on your immediate loss and your grief going, oh, you've lost your mum. And then it kind of trickles in and it's a little bit. Now, while that's nice and you feel like you've got comfort, which is true, but I'm always looking at, well, how much of a connection to your mum do we really have? Or how much of a connection to your loved one do we really have? And I'm always looking for that stronger connection.
[23:58] So, it's a big thing there to look at. So, that's just the mechanics there. So, just kind of go through it. I know that there's a few of you who are aspiring energetic workers, which I love. So, hopefully, this might help you as well. But it's just helping to understand that there's a little bit more to it rather than just jumping in and saying, hey, I've got your loved one here and it's always going to be the person that you want.
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Managing Expectations
[24:23] So, the big thing here is just Just be mindful around this common complaint. So the biggest thing here is number one, what's your expectation? I cannot stress this enough, guys. I feel for you. I feel for everyone who comes in. And sometimes it's the hardest thing when someone's got such an expectation. But the thing is when you are so tunnel visioned on connecting with one person, you are missing out on such beautiful energy and beautiful insight messages and guidance and healing from your other family members as well. They are there. They are helping you just as much as the loved one that you've lost or that you're closest to. They are still there. They still would like to talk to you. They still want to be a part of your life as well. So, please don't forget them as they come through. Now, the other thing too is just because it's not the loved one that you are wanting that comes through straight away, here's the deal.
[25:20] That doesn't mean they're not right behind them. I personally work through them one by one. That's why I acknowledge them, get their message, their personality, pass on, and then usually there's another person, and then there's another person. So, that loved one that you're wanting may very well be there for you. You just have to work through the line, for lack of a better term. It is like, okay, if you have to call your family, who are you going to call first? Who's on the phone? alone and then but as soon as you finish that person who would you call next if you had to put him in order think of it like that so your loved ones on the other side kind of sometimes make an order and going you know what i'm going to come through first because if i don't go first they don't even want to speak to me because you're going to tell them everything so that does happen from time to time so just because it's not the person that you're expecting straight away don't lose hope they may be there but the whole point is understanding it so expectation please be mindful of that. Remember, you're always going to get what you need, not what you want. And sometimes that means you're going to get a different person. And I also hate to say it.
[26:28] Not often, but sometimes you may not need anybody at the moment, okay? So, that's a big thing. The other thing too, of course, your grief. Your grief is going to play a part and you need to be really mindful of this. You need to be kind to yourself and of course, if you're in that kind of very deep grief, my suggestion would be really just nurture and be kind to yourself and I wouldn't put yourself in the position of being disappointed or having more grief by not being able to connect. That's a big one. And of course, also just understanding the mechanics. There's a whole lot more there in terms of the soul, the soul journey, what all that means. Don't have time for that in this podcast. There might be another one there. If you're interested in that, let me me know. I can probably do that one for you. But the mechanics there in the energy is also different. So, just so you know, that way when you're seeking it out or you're having it, you'll be able to really get a sense and a feel for the difference of the connection that you're having with the information that's coming through.
[27:39] So, as much as you might attend an event or a a gathering or as much as you might have a one-on-one session and if your favorite or most wanted loved one doesn't come through,
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Finding Hope and Understanding
[27:55] please try not to be disappointed. Please don't make it a complaint. Really look at what you can take away from it. And of course, the biggest thing is, don't lose hope. It will happen and it's going to happen all in its own time.
[28:13] It could be the simple case of you may think that you're ready, but energetically, you're not ready to receive it. And it could also go for your loved one in spirit. They may also be adjusting on that side and they may not be 100% ready to connect with you just yet because they'd be mindful of your journey. So like I said, there's quite a bit in there, but these are a few of the basic things just to help you and just to kind of manage that. And I just want to educate you. I'm hoping that with this and understanding this, it's just going to give you that little bit more understanding. I'm hoping it's not going to cause any more grief for you, but I'm just hoping it's going to help you to stay open, open-minded, open-hearted, so you can receive exactly what you need at exactly the time that you need it. So hopefully that helps you, love to hear from you and again thanks for tuning in and I'll chat to you all again very soon.
